Mit ne bánjunk majd meg?

Bronnie Ware, palliatív ellátásban dolgozó ausztrál nővér évekig ápolt végstádiumú betegeket és blogjában jegyzetelt, majd könyvet írt erről a tapasztalásairól és a velük folytatott beszélgetésekről. A munka során az utolsó heteiket élő betegekkel arról beszélgettek, hogy van-e valami, amit sajnálnak, vagy bánnak, hogy úgy alakult az életükben, ahogy alakult.

Összefoglalnám röviden a lényeget:

Mit bánnak a leginkább a haldoklók?

1. Bárcsak lett volna bátorságom a saját életemet élni, nem pedig a mások elvárásainak megfelelni. – “A legtöbben ezt sajnálták. Amikor az ember élete végéhez közeledik, és őszintén visszatekint, szembesül vele, hogy mennyi álmát nem teljesítette be. A legtöbb ember még álmai felét sem váltotta valóra, és tudatában van annak, hogy ez a saját döntéseinek következménye.”

2. Bárcsak ne dolgoztam volna olyan sokat. – “Minden férfi betegem szájából elhangzott. Sajnálták, hogy kimaradt az életükből gyermekeik fiatalsága, hogy kevés időt töltöttek társukkal. Minden általam ápolt férfi mélyen sajnálta, hogy élete nagy részét a munka taposómalmában töltötte.”

3. Bárcsak lett volna bátorságom az érzéseim kimutatására. – “Sok ember érezte úgy, hogy a konfliktusok elkerülése végett elnyomta az érzéseit. Ennek az eredménye egy középszerű élet lett, és soha nem váltak azzá, akivé válhattak volna. A ki nem mondott keserűség, harag, neheztelés sokaknál betegségek kialakulásához is vezetett.”

4. Bárcsak ne hanyagoltam volna el a barátaimat. – “Gyakran egy régi barátság értékét csak az utolsó hetekben ismerjük fel, amikor már sokszor nincs mód az illető felkutatására. Sokan számoltak be arról, hogy annyira lefoglalta őket a saját életük, hogy az évek során fontos barátságokat hagytak elúszni. Sokan számoltak be mély megbánásról, hogy barátaikra nem szántak elég időt és energiát. Mindenkinek hiányoznak a barátai élete végén.”

5. Bárcsak megengedtem volna magamnak, hogy boldogabb legyek. – “Sokan csak életük végén ismerik fel, hogy a boldogság is választás kérdése. És ahelyett, hogy a boldogságot választották volna, beleragadtak a régi mintákba, szokásba. A megszokás mind az érzelmi életet, mind a fizikai létet képes középszerűvé tenni. A változástól való félelem sokakat arra késztetett hogy magukkal és másokkal is elhitessék, hogy tulajdonképpen elégedettek az életükkel, miközben lelkük mélyén arra vágyták, hogy újra bolondozhassanak, és felszabadultan nevethessenek.”

Nézzük akkor konkrétan a saját életünkre lefordítva… ugyanis homokba dugnánk azzal a fejünket, ha azt hinnénk, hogy mindig MÁSOK bánják meg később, mindig MÁSOK válnak szomorúvá vagy céltalanná és mindig MÁSOK válnak az út végére boldogtalanná, velünk ez bizonyára nem történhet meg. Valóban, nem történhet meg, ha minden egyes lépésünk, tettünk, gondolatunk, kimondott szavunk azt szolgálja, hogy belül rendben vagyunk, nem MAJD elkezdünk élni, hanem tudatában vagyunk annak, hogy minden döntésünk már MOST az úton-létünk szerves része, hiszen most ÉLÜNK.

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Gondolkoztam rajta így egyszerűen nem tehetem ezt a fákkal, és a gyakorlati példáim sem férnének el mivel igen hatalmas a kiterjedésük, de amin lesz azon bőven elfér, mester emberrel kell beszélni a hogyanra...



várom a könyvet,

szívesen elolvasnám



Kérik :)

De halogatom, csak meg kell írnom ama könyvet, már látok esélyt hogy korlátozzak másokat, mert sajna az írott szó tud ilyet tenni az emberekkel akik szó-szerint élik az életüket, de minden csak jelképesen értendő "MINTA" :)



Tudod Szmörcsi,

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köszönöm :)



:)

Magam részéről már nem bánok semmit.
A mai tudatosságommal sok mindent máshogy csinálnék, máshogy viselkednék, de az akkori tudásomhoz képest a legjobb döntést hoztam, és a legjobban cselekedtem.
Ott annyira voltam képes, és mindamellett, ma nem lennék az, aki.
Szerintem. :))))